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What's the easiest way to get divorced?

posted Nov 26, 2012, 6:13 AM by Alex Noe

By Paula H Noe


At the risk of seeming to give an overly simple answer to a very complicated question, and because I am an attorney, I am going to tell you that this simple/complicated answer is ‘it depends’......

 

Here are some issues to think about before or when you are trying to decide HOW you are going to get divorced because this decision, in my opinion, determines how ‘easy’ (ie, ‘smooth’, ‘amicable’, ‘reasonable’, we hope) the divorce will or can be.

 

1.   I believe that everyone should be educated to understand the avenues that are available to a ‘fair and reasonable’ settlement; be sure to ask your family attorney to explain the benefits and risks about these well-tried and well-proven dispute resolution possibilities –

 

a.   Mediation (using a neutral mediator to help you reach an agreement)

 

b.   Collaborative Divorce (using team of collaboratively-trained attorneys and a coach chosen specifically for your family)

 

c.   Litigation (giving control of your decisions to a judge instead of to your family)

 

2.   I also believe that a Collaborative Divorce and a mediated divorce can certainly be as complicated and even risky as a litigious divorce; however, the Agreements of the collaborative families tend to benefit everyone in unique ways.

 

3.   I have never seen a litigated divorce be ‘simple’.

 

4.   Your family law attorney should be well-equipped to give you the information you want and need in order to help you decide if a resolution-oriented divorce is a good path for you to contemplate.

 

5.   Do your own research. Interview two or three attorneys until you find the right fit for you and your family.

 

6.   See www.collaborativepractice.org; www.DivorceAndRenewal.com.

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